Postpartum Interviews: Cori and Glenn
Cori and Glenn welcomed baby Abilene on October 12th, 2017. Here is their postpartum experience:
How did your actual experience differ from your expectation of what it would be like?I didn’t go into it with a ton of expectations because I hadn’t spent a lot of time around babies. I didn’t realize how little time we would have to do things. I expected there would be a lot more times where she would be sleeping and we would be able to get things done.What was the hardest part for you?The hardest part for me was to release myself from the typical daily schedule and to accept that if my free time comes at 4am, that’s when I could get to the laundry or go grocery shopping.What seemed to be the hardest for your partner?The hardest part seemed to be accepting that everything couldn’t be organized, and that we couldn’t plan for much. My partner likes to plan!If you could have prepared differently, what would you have done?I would have made sure all of our house projects were done. We got a ton done around the house, but there are a few things we just didn’t get to. I also would have done more in the days and weeks leading up to her birth, like going out to eat and visiting with friends.Most and least helpful things your partner did?The most helpful thing my partner did was breastfeeding our baby and taking such good care of her. The least helpful thing my partner did was not thinking about what she needed all at once – I spent a lot of time running up and down the stairs to get snacks, water, etc.!
How did your actual experience differ from your expectation of what it would be like?I was expecting to spend all of my time caring for my new baby. However, I didn’t really expect it to be so hard to do the simple things like get a shower in every day, unload the dishwasher, or do laundry. I figured there would be a few spare minutes here and there while the baby was sleeping, but I found that I was either holding her or sleeping myself! Not a lot got done during those first few months, which was just fine. We were lucky to have so much family support.What was the hardest part for you?The hardest part was adjusting to waking up every few hours to feed the baby. Since I’m breastfeeding, this largely fell to me. I remember one day talking to my mom about what I was doing at the “dark noon” (midnight), because I never knew what time it was, and the time didn’t really matter. I slept when I could, but I was deliriously tired.What seemed to be the hardest for your partner?Since I am breastfeeding, I think at times it was frustrating to him that he couldn’t help more. He was great at making sure I was fed and hydrated. During the evenings when she would cluster feed and I needed to get up to go to the bathroom, she would often scream the whole time when I was gone, and I think this was tough for Glenn. He just wanted to be able to comfort her during those times, but all she wanted to do was nurse. However, once she was finally done nursing, he was the expert at getting her to fall asleep!If you could have prepared differently, what would you have done?I’m not sure I would have done much differently. I think I would have gone out to more dinners with just my husband, and maybe done one more trip. It’s much harder to go out to dinner with a baby, and even if you have a babysitter, it feels like it’s always borrowed time!Most and least helpful things your partner did?The most helpful thing Glenn did was to support me in all aspects of breastfeeding. During the wee hours of the morning, he would stay awake with me, or even let me snooze and watch the baby while she was nursing. He always made sure I had enough healthy food, and was hydrated. He obviously understood that breastfeeding took incredible effort and dedication on my part, and I felt so supported by him, and continue to. It would have been very helpful if my partner had taken full control of who was visiting us when. The visitor schedule became overwhelming and exhausting at times, and my brain wasn’t fully functioning.