World Doula Week 2019
Even the doulas need a doula. For real.
When I had my first baby, I knew what doulas were and I wanted one, but I also wasn’t sure I could afford one at the time. Instead of reaching out to see if there was a doula in my budget, I just immersed myself in all things birth.
I really wanted an unmedicated birth, and I read all the books and watched all the movies I could about it. I went to a midwife instead of an OB because I knew the research showed I had a higher chance of getting the kind of birth I wanted with a midwife. But when I went into labor, and I wasn’t the one who was able to do the thinking, I was lost. My partner had never seen anyone have a baby before. He was like a deer in headlights. My sisters were there, but they had never had babies either, and had no idea how to help me get through my labor. Things definitely didn’t go how I wanted them to. I laugh about it now, because of course! When you’re in labor, you CANNOT be in charge of doing the thinking, problem solving, and comforting. All the things that a doula does.
Needless to say, with my second baby I had TWO doulas, AND a homebirth, for good measure. It was beautiful. For my third baby, I had 3 doulas. Lol. Because as Ina May Gaskin says, “If a woman doesn’t look like a goddess during labor, then someone isn’t treating her right.” And gosh darn it, I’m worth every doula I can get.
Leave the thinking up to the experts, get a doula.
Photos provided by Gabriella Hunt.